Botox Me, Baby!? (The Step by Step Guide to Deciding if It’s for You)

27th May 2015

Why I am a Fan of Botox (& the Difference Between Botox and Fillers)

It is a surprise to exactly no one that I get Botox. It’s hard to one day look in the mirror and gasp in horror at the first sign of fine lines and wrinkles. (Mine aren’t even so fine, quite frankly.) Then thoughts run through our minds like: “When did these show up?” And “So this is what I’m stuck with now??” At first I tried to justify it with excuses like: “I had a tough week and I’m just tired”. Um, yeah, not so much. You can only ride that for so long.

Who wants to grow old naturally?

Who wants to grow old naturally? I guess not me. I love the whole French idea of looking amazing with zero makeup. Two problems: A) I’m not French. B) I don’t look good without makeup. C) An extra problem I didn’t initially disclose, I want to look good for myself, even if I’m the only one who thinks so. (I’m the girl, remember, who reapplies lipstick when she’s working from home all day.) The tricky part with this whole growing old naturally vs Botox and fillers, vs whatever else is out there, is knowing what to do, how much, where, and how often. It’s hard! I know, first world problems. This is NOT lost on me so please save the hate mail.

The difference between Botox and fillers:

To freaking figure out the whole thing, I asked my girl Tamara at Skin Deep in Pasadena. (Disclaimer: I have no tie to the place other than a girlfriend recommended it to me, I’ve been and I like it. I don’t get anything free, nor is this some pay for play. I’m just using my personal venue here to answer questions that my clients ask me, especially brides and go over what my girlfriends and I talk about anyway. Plus, I was curious and wanted the facts, so I went straight to my source.)

Difference Between Botox and Fillers

Keep in mind, this is not a solution for full on reconstruction. For that, well, you’re going to have to go ask Taylor or see one of the Real Housewives’ docs. (Although, bee tee dubbs, Ken Todd [Lisa Vanderpump’s husband] WAS at our event a couple of weeks ago for Kelly Rutherford and the Children’s Justice Campaign – #bringkellyskidsback – and he looked great, whatever, if anything he’s doing so not everyone is Botoxed out in La La Land.)

The Step by Step Guide to Know if It’s Botox or Fillers:

What do you want to treat?: Fine lines, deep wrinkles or both? If it’s those pesky lines around your eyes or those frown lines that make you look bitter all the time, Botox will be your new best friend.

What it does: Botox relaxes your muscles so you have limited movement, which prevents worsening of the lines and then also softens the ones you have.

How long does Botox last: 3-4 months and it takes anywhere from 3 to 14 days to see the full benefits, but I have to say that I feel better almost immediately, which is probably totally psychological. Oh well.

Once it’s gone: You’ll need to be re-injected to obtain the same results, but my own personal experience has been that it seems to kind of compound on itself after you’ve been a few times so I don’t have to goes as often.

How you know you want a filler

If you’re concerned about the lines that run from your nose down to your mouth or the deflation in the cheek area, that requires a filler to “fill in” the space. We start losing collagen in our late 20s (ugh, depressing isn’t it?) and it’s pretty much downhill from there.

What makes you need fillers? Well, we lose the collagen, and then, there’s the rest of it, the stuff we can control in our lifestyle choices:

  • smoking
  • weight loss
  • sun damage

What are the different types of fillers? We’ll have to get into that in a later post, or if you just can’t wait, check out this article.

How long do fillers last? Fillers typically last 6 months to a year.  That’s it? OK, OK, there’s a newer filler which is FDA approved for 2 years, but call Tamara and ask her about that because I have no idea what it’s called.

The bad news? We’re getting older. The GREAT news, there are options.

The net/net difference between Botox and fillers?

One relaxes the muscles which kind of prevents the fine lines while the other fills and re-stimulates collagen to our faces which reduces the deeper lines.

Let me know what you think in the comments below. Yay or nah on Botox and fillers?

xx Marley

P.S. Thanks, Tamara, for agreeing to share!!

 

My Weekly Roundup of Event Photos and Inspiration – Week 10

24th May 2015

Here It Is! The Weekly Roundup of Event Photos and Inspiration – Week 10

Hi there! How was your week? As challenging, full disclosure, as it is for me to get these photos organized, and, oh, by the way, I don’t even do 1% of the work, it’s so fun to see the whole Instagram image week in review come together over the weekend. (See below for the full explanation of what we’re up to.)

This week’s recap features one of the parties we did for Keely and Pierce Brosnan. Ironic, because Pierce just celebrated his birthday on May 16th and I don’t think the office took that into consideration when we were planning this round up. So, Happy Belated, Pierce! xx

In case you missed it, here’s what we’re doing, mentioned in the first blog (and if you already know what’s going on, skip to the first photo!): “Every afternoon we’re posting event photos & inspiration to my Instagram page to give you ideas for your own events, and of course, encourage you to hire yours truly, fabulous event planner in California for your next soiree! In terms of format, we’re trying to capitalize on the whole hashtag calendar world and take advantage of #WeddingWednesday (#WW) and #ThrowbackThursday (#TT) by posting wedding photos and cool stuff we’ve done on Wednesdays and on Thursdays, harkening back to a past client’s event, be it a celebrity, or just one of us tastemakers. So…here is the first weekly round up of my favorite Instagram images that we posted. (For more event images, click here.) Enjoy and tell me which one is your favorite in the comments below?”

Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration – Monday:

Evidently you liked this photo, which I do too, but it’s funny to me that it got so many likes on Instagram when it’s sort of “busy” if you look at it as a thumbnail on your phone. Oh well, Christine Chang did an AMAZING job for us with these Malibu beach party shots. (She has a great blog, bee tee dubbs…)

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Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration – Tuesday:

This amazing tent served several purposes, to seat everyone, but then to block the shots of the paparazzi. Ha! Not even their drones made it in. #Snap. P.S. How much do you love the fire dancers Kelly brought in from Hawaii? Nuts, huh?

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Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration – Wednesday:

Happy #WeddingWednesday (#WW): Love the pineapples and, well, tons and tons of champagne. Need we say more?

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Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration -Thursday:

#ThrowbackThursday (#TBT) to this photo with the hostess with a mostess, Keely Brosnan. #ATrueClassAct.

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Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration – Friday:

Now that I think about it, let’s forget the champagne and just go to the rum. Take me to Kauai, please? Someone? :) Amazing food provided by Malibu’s #1 chef, Jennifer Naylor. (Let’s get together Jennifer!!)

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Event Photos and Inspiration – Plus, tell me what else you want to see on the blog!:

So which of these images were your favorites? Let us know in the comments below! And oh, by the way, make sure you go and see Pierce’s latest movie!!

Do tell?! What did you think of this week’s images? What are some of your favorite sources for inspiration, flowers, trends and all things fashionable? Share them in the comments below so we can all get inspired!  Stop back every weekend to get the previous week’s Instagram recap of Event Photos and Inspiration!

xoxo M

My Weekly Roundup of Event Photos and Inspiration – Weeks 8 & 9

22nd May 2015

Here It Is! The Weekly Roundup of Event Photos and Inspiration – Weeks 8 & 9

Alrighty, a little late with the recap posts, AGAIN. I am so trying to just “show up” and post on the blog and it’s not always easy. We seem to have nailed getting everything up on Instagram fairly regularly, but I guess when it’s yours truly responsible for the final final touches on this one, it goes south. Shout out to Camille for staying so on top of this and shame on me for lagging behind!

If you already know what we’re doing, skip this paragraph and head straight to the photos:

In case you missed it, here’s what we’re doing: “Every afternoon we’re posting event photos & inspiration to my Instagram page to give you ideas for your own events, and of course, encourage you to hire yours truly, fabulous event planner in California for your next soiree! In terms of format, we’re trying to capitalize on the whole hashtag calendar world and take advantage of #WeddingWednesday (#WW) and #ThrowbackThursday (#TT) by posting wedding photos and cool stuff we’ve done on Wednesdays and on Thursdays, harkening back to a past client’s event, be it a celebrity, or just one of us tastemakers. So…here is the first weekly round up of my favorite Instagram images that we posted. (For more event images, click here.) Enjoy and tell me which one is your favorite in the comments below?”

Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration – Monday:

The Week of May 4, 2015

Ironically, this party was for Kelly Rutherford and her son, Hermes, Mattel and Rocky the Robot at the Alice and Olivia Showroom in New York. And while we were posting all of this stuff, we did ANOTHER event for Kelly and her project, The Children’s Justice Campaign this past week. If you’d like to sign Kelly’s petition to bring her kids home, please click here. To join the social media conversation, Tweet Kelly @KellyRutherford and use the hashtag: #bringkellyskidshome

The Rocky the Robot themed party for Hermes was all construction. Think tons of road signs, Rocky of course, cardboard bricks and bright yellow cones.

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Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration – Tuesday:

Cylindrical jars were filled with ropes, chains and every bolt a boy could love. Peaches filled Rocky up to soften things just a little. SUPER obsessed with the graffiti credenza below at the Alice + Olivia showroom.

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Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration – Wednesday:

Happy #WeddingWednesday (#WW): OK, so we’re cheating because these aren’t really wedding photos, but we wanted to stick with the theme of consistently posting about Kelly, Rocky and Hermes’ party, so there ya go. :). It trumped our #WeddingWednesday commitment.

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Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration -Thursday:

#ThrowbackThursday (#TBT) to one of my favorite celeb photos. Since I was working the gig, we all wore the bright orange vests – I guess like I was picking up trash by the side of the freeway, but… Kelly, on the other hand, has not aged one single bit since her days on Gossip Girl, and I have no idea how, considering the stress she’s under. Ugh.

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Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration – Friday:

Construction themed sandwiches with super healthy multi grain bread, natch. (More good ideas on my Food and Beverage Pinterest board, BTW.) Build your own cupcakes with scoops, candy and plastic organizers that would do VERY well in Rocky’s repair department.

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The Week of May 11, 2015

Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration – Monday:

This week featured Ali Landry’s daughter’s birthday party at one of the waterfront beach houses in Malibu. We all got GREAT coverage for this one. (Thanks Christine Chang for the amazing shots!) Pirate’s Booty provided AMAZING booty, what can I say. Thanks to that event, I’m STILL a loyal customer! For real. And I pay retail! :)

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Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration – Tuesday:

Few color combinations make me happier than that bubble gum pink and wheat grass green. I can never get enough, evidently very much channeling Lilly Pulitzer. Maybe I should do a party for them and just bathe in the whole color sitch!

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Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration – Wednesday:

Happy #WeddingWednesday (#WW): The table girl dressed as the table? The table was part of her dress? How exactly do I describe this? It would be perfect for a wedding or bridal shower, but by FAR the most often asked question is: “How does she go to the ladies room?”

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Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration -Thursday:

#ThrowbackThursday (#TBT) and my photo with Ali Landry. Sweetest, kindest girl ever! Oh, and, drop dead gorgeous, for real, in person!

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Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration – Friday:

Fresh squeezed juices, perfect for anyone wanting to healthy it up after all of that PINK CANDY! #LOVE.

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Event Photos and Inspiration – Plus, tell me what else you want to see on the blog!:

More on Ali Landry by clicking here. More on Kelly Rutherford by clicking here. And to sign the petition to #bringkellyskidshome, please click here.

Do tell?! What did you think of this week’s images? What are some of your favorite sources for inspiration, flowers, trends and all things fashionable? Share them in the comments below so we can all get inspired!  Stop back every weekend to get the previous week’s Instagram recap of Event Photos and Inspiration!

xoxo M

My Weekly Roundup of Event Photos and Inspiration – Week 7

3rd May 2015

Here It Is! The Weekly Roundup of Event Photos and Inspiration – Week 7

Hi! Mea culpa, the Instagram photo recap got posted today (Sunday) instead of yesterday. SORRY! What a cuckoo week; it seems like I haven’t been home in forever. Was at Sanctuary after a bunch of days locked in a room creating new systems for my biz, then home for about a day, then off to DC to judge the Entrepalooza (final entrepreneurship competitions) at Georgetown, my alma mater. God bless it, the participants were so freaking talented. Makes me want to be THEM! Hoya Saxa!

If you already know what we’re up to, skip this and just head down to “Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration – Monday:”

In cased you missed it, here’s what we’re doing, mentioned in the first blog (and if you already know what’s going on, skip to the first photo!): “Every afternoon we’re posting event photos & inspiration to my Instagram page to give you ideas for your own events, and of course, encourage you to hire yours truly, fabulous event planner in California for your next soiree! In terms of format, we’re trying to capitalize on the whole hashtag calendar world and take advantage of #WeddingWednesday (#WW) and #ThrowbackThursday (#TT) by posting wedding photos and cool stuff we’ve done on Wednesdays and on Thursdays, harkening back to a past client’s event, be it a celebrity, or just one of us tastemakers. So…here is the first weekly round up of my favorite Instagram images that we posted. (For more event images, click here.) Enjoy and tell me which one is your favorite in the comments below?”

Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration – Monday:

Roses! Tightly wound and bound and big, shiny green leaves. Not sure what to say. Love. (Or I guess I wouldn’t have made them/posted them?) :)

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Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration – Tuesday:

Kind of the theme for this whole week toggled a lot between hot pink and white. What’s funny though as I’m putting together this recap is that I don’t think I’ve done a lot of hot pink AND white combos. #MaybeIShouldTryThatDuh.

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Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration – Wednesday:

Happy #WeddingWednesday (#WW): While I’m not a huge fan always of tulips, not sure why, maybe it’s because I have SO many favorites, I do love their supple stems and this perfect way Christine Chang captured the arch of the stems and the blooms perfectly open status.

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Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration -Thursday:

#ThrowbackThursday (#TBT) to Spring, orchids and these little mini cabbage set ups that, quite frankly, look like Brussel Sprouts to me. (Trying to eat more of those so maybe that’s why I’m dreaming of them now in photos.)

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Favorite Event Photos and Inspiration – Friday:

I think I want a hashtag called #FlashbackFriday. Is there one already? The hot pink photo right below is a shot of the centerpieces for Snoop Dogg’s vow renewal captured by E! If you look to the back left of the shot, you’ll see this interesting French gray/blue sitch. It was a clump of great, interesting feathers on driftwood. Not sure HOW it worked, but it did. Loved that decor. Super unexpected, well, kind of like Snoop himself, I guess! P.S. I haven’t give a shout out to Eric Raptosh who did the Snoop photos, so Hi Eric! Let’s connect. :) The images are AWESOME.

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Event Photos and Inspiration – I’m In Love:

Do tell?! What did you think of this week’s images? Who are some of your favorite photographers now that I’ve given you two of mine? Share them in the comments below so we can all get inspired!  Stop back every weekend to get the previous week’s Instagram recap of Event Photos and Inspiration!

xoxo M

6 Super Scandalous Party Tips & 1 My Competition Will Kill Me For Sharing. Oops.

27th April 2015

6 Super Scandalous Party Tips & 1 My Competition Will Kill Me For Sharing. Oops.

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I’m on a roll with our new, fabulous, re-invented blog, Vodka & Donuts as well as posting cool images of past events on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. What do you think? This post covers 6  Super Scandalous Party Tips & 1 My Competition Will Kill Me For Sharing. Oops and oh well. See if you can tell which one my competition isn’t going to be so happy about. :)

1. Tell the neighbors.

Communication is like oxygen: You don’t know you need it until it’s gone. Therefore, over communicate. I’ve seen a LOT of hall passes given to hosts who plead the mea culpa ahead of time and explain to those within ear shot that they are so sorry in advance for the noise, but junior’s only going to get married once, and we promise to knock it off by midnight. (Well, I guess unless junior is yours truly, but that’s for another newsletter.) Give them a heads up. They’ll feel guiltier about spoiling it for you and the fam.

2. Get enough booze.

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It 100% is totally back. You can hand me every A-list vegan in the world, and all of ‘em have some kind of vice. With the dawn of Uber (or “Ooobare” as my sweet, naive bf thinks it’s called) it’s likely a few hard cocktails. So get a little extra. In fact, bonus tip: Don’t have an open bar if it’s too complicated – limit the “types” of booze so you can have plenty of what you are serving. And while we’re on that note…

3. It’s easy to be hip without blowing a wad.

Small batch everything is exploding – from whiskey to gin, there are so many ways to dial it up a notch in about 5 seconds. Another surefire hit? Randomness of any kind – think homemade pop tarts on a stick,  vodka in mini spray bottles and tater tot bars. Seriously. D.I.V.I.N.E. #ShootMe it’s so exciting.

4. Don’t forget about insurance.

Sorry to bring up a bummer of a subject, but it never ceases to amaze me how people spend their entire lives working to attain a certain level of, how shall we say, wealth, or perhaps more appropriately,”comfortability”, and then they’re willing to blow it all by hiring some yo yos without any insurance. As a lawyer friend once told me: “Marley, if something bad happens at an event and the injured’s got a good lawyer, that lawyer is going to sue you and every single person down the line while he’s at it.” Basically, he was saying that whether it’s your fault, you hired them, didn’t hire them or they snuck their way in, if it happens at your pad, you’re toast.

Scared me so badly into thinking that the poor cow who provided the beef’s ranch hand’s mother was gonna go down, so I massively upped my insurance. Any event planner, caterer or valet who’s worth their salt will have exactly ZERO problem providing you with their proof of insurance. So ask for it. (They balk? Oh, that’s right, they don’t have any…which is why you’re getting such a “deal.” Next.)

5. Mix up the guest list.

My Mom always told me that the best parties she used to go to in Washington were the ones that had the doctors, lawyers, senators, gardeners and recent parolees all in attendance (or her tidier version, but the point was the same). It was a great lesson because we spend a LOT of time trying to control everyone’s experience and worrying about who will like whom and think what-of-whatever that we miss the point. If you like to surround yourself with an eclectic mix of people (MUCH more interesting), then invite them to the party. Who CARES if someone turns their nose up. If they do, THEY’RE the ones who should’ve been left off the list. Losers. #Next.

6. Please. Play. Music.

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I get that sometimes a band or even a dj is overkill, but really, it’s HORRIBLEEEEEEE to walk into a party of any kind and…freaking crickets. Music sets the mood for everything – winds you up, cools you down, cheers you up. Yes, I even believe in good music at funerals. Sorry.

Well after all of those doozies, I should probably log off an plan my own funeral. Kind of scandalous advice but somebody had to dish it. Oh well, we never were the go to peeps for the random rubber chicken dinner, so go find yourself a senator and a chimney sweep and add them to your next guest list. I’m off to DC to judge the entrepreneurship competitions at Georgetown, guest lecture for the b-school and catch up with a ton of old friends. After all, the whole story started a million years ago with that handsome chef from 1789…

Make it a great week –
xxx Marley
P.S. So what did you think of my “6 Super Scandalous Party Tips & 1 My Competition Will Kill Me For Sharing”? Tell me what your fav party tips are in the comments below.
P.P.S. Want to get some more ideas? Check out my aggregated mag on Flipboard here. Have fun and be inspired!