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If you’ve ever had a year that felt like a dumpster fire wearing heels… same.

And here’s the part nobody admits on Instagram (because everyone’s too busy posing next to their “perfect” holiday card photo): sometimes you’re not “unmotivated.”

You’re overloaded, fried and neurospicy while you’re trying to function while your brain runs 47 tabs and one of them is blasting panic music.

So on a recent episode of Every Day’s a Trainwreck, Marley brought back Olivia Sammons (Closers.io / Founders Future) for round two — and we ended up in one of those conversations that starts with business… and somehow ends up explaining why ironing might be therapy.

Yeah. We’re going there.

ADHD Isn’t “Can’t Focus.” It’s “Focus… Too Hard… On Random Things.”

Here’s the thing about ADHD that non-ADHD people don’t get:

We’re not incapable of focus.

We’re capable of weaponized focus – on the most random thing you’ve ever heard of.

One minute you’re running a company.
>Next minute you know how to make candles.
>Next minute you’re deep in training videos about a CRM you didn’t even want.
>Next minute you’re convinced your whole identity is now “person who masters GoHighLevel.”

And honestly? That’s not a bug. That’s a superpower.

When ADHD people lock in, it’s like burrowing through concrete. You’re not stopping us.

The Slump Cure Nobody Wants to Hear: Structure

Olivia said something that made Marley pause (and that’s rare):

Structure helps ADHD.

Annoying? Yes.
True? Also yes.

Because ADHD brains hate rules… but secretly need rails.

Not for control. For clarity.

When your mind is loud, discipline isn’t punishment – it’s relief.

The Real Move: Let Yourself Feel Bad… Then Cut It Off

Olivia’s approach is simple:

Let yourself feel it.
Don’t live there.
Do something healthy to reset your brain.

Not pretend you’re fine.
>Not drown it in cocktails.
>Not spiral-scroll until your eyes blur.

Just: “Okay, this sucks.” Then: “Now we move.”

This isn’t toxic positivity. It’s emotional management.

Exercise Isn’t a Personality. It’s a Reset Button.

For Olivia, it’s running.

It’s the discipline + the dopamine + the brain-unclenching that happens when your body is moving and your mind finally stops trying to start a war.

Marley’s version? Let’s just say she wants it to be running… but sometimes it’s more like cupcake therapy.

(Progress, not perfection. Don’t yell at us.)

The point: movement gives your brain room to unpack itself.

Manual Tasks = Brain Therapy (And Yes, Ironing Counts)

This was the sneaky genius moment:

Olivia said running is a distraction so her brain can sort itself out in the background.

And then she dropped the most unhinged-but-accurate list of “ADHD calming activities”:

running
cooking
listening to music
singing (even badly)
ironing
anything manual and repetitive that keeps you just distracted enough to think

And Marley immediately connected the dots: that’s also why gardening works.

It’s not heavy mental lifting – it’s hands-busy, mind-free.

The Dopamine Trick: Learn Something Instead of Spiraling

Here’s what Marley realized mid-episode:

Sometimes the “healthy distraction” isn’t exercise.

Sometimes it’s learning.

She talked about how getting into structured sales training (the kind that forces you to follow a process) kept her brain occupied in a productive way – not spiraling, not doom-scrolling, not catastrophizing.

You get dopamine from progress.
From being proactive.
From “I did something today that moves the needle.”

ADHD brains don’t just need calm.
They need momentum.

The Takeaway

If you’re stuck right now, try this:

Give yourself a short, controlled pity party
Pick one healthy reset (run, walk, cook, garden, music, lift, whatever)
Do one manual task that makes your brain go quiet
Learn one thing that makes you feel capable again

You’re not broken.
You’re overloaded.
There’s a difference.

And if your coping mechanism is ironing? Congratulations. You’re officially hotter than the rest of us.

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Want help planning a birthday, Saint Patrick’s Day, or Valentine’s Day party that looks effortless and feels RIDICULOUS in the best way?

Let’s start planning something ridiculous.

We handle the details so you can actually enjoy your own party. Ready to crush it? We are.

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And of course, don’t forget the podcast: Every Day’s a Trainwreck.
Because if you’re going to host the holiday, you might as well make it memorable – in a good way.

P.S. Want more tips and tricks? Don’t miss our latest blog on From Birkin Dreams to One Billion Podcasts: What This Trainwreck Episode Teaches You About Attention, Algorithms, and Owning Your Audience!